The Detachment Factor

So how detached are you? I don't mean distant, cold or uncaring. I mean how well contained you are. How good you are at boundary setting. And how present you are.

This skill took some time for me to develop. My emotions and feelings would get the better of me. Contrary to what was in my heart, the desire to help someone and show compassion, I would get wrapped up in the drama of the emotions, pulled into the feelings and actually become far less present in the situation. That is because when I allow my ego to drag me into the emotions and feelings of a situation I am contemplating on my stories of the past or my projections for the future. I am anything but present.

It seems that the more and more I chose to live in the present, my perspective shifted and became more and more impersonal. AND that was a good thing. To be effective as a shaman, a healer, a teacher and a woman in service to others, this skill needed to be honed.

Learning this detachment factor allowed me the grace to not get hooked by others feelings or emotions; necessary for the work I do. I could still maintain my compassion for others, but have clarity on what I could offer, what work needed to be done and how I would be present in the situation.

It also eliminated the need for me to have others in my life be a certain way for me to get on with my day. This detachment factor was huge! If someone was angry, frustrated or down in the dumps, I learned that I did not need to react or have it impact my day negatively. I just moved around it, took the detachment detour and got on with my day. I certainly could understand their feelings, their situation, but it did not become a part of me.

Actually, I was better able to understand what was happening to them. I could see it more clearly. My understanding expanded and so my services were more and more spot on, direct and effective. Being objective does not mean being uncaring. It actually affords you the distance and viewpoints to care in the best possible way, not a reactionary way.

Detachment keeps me clean. I don't pick up the energies of those I am working with. I also don't mistakenly place my intentions upon others, even the best of intentions. It allows my heart energies to be of love, not of expectation. It allows my soul to bring its beauty and essence to the equation without old stories or labels. It allows the situation to unfold in truth instead of confusion. Bringing detachment to my day gives me so much more room to be present, in tune with Source, in alignment with my truth and authentic.

Blessings, Lisa

On The Day You Were Born

On the day you were born there was a powerful celebration. All the angels and guides surrounded your sweet new soul brought into this body. Together they gifted you with treasures to carry you through your life's journey.

One angel presented you with the gift of laughter so that lyrical delight would ring out from you. Another brought the gift of breath so that you could whisper wondrous words of support and breathe in all the delicious aromas and scents of this world. One guide gifted you with respect so that you could bring this into your relationships with all things and beings and have it mirrored back onto you. One angel shared the gift of fierceness, knowing you would need it at times to stand your ground.

On and on, one by one, the angels and guides stepped forward and showered you with gift after gift. Your little body glowed with the essence of them all; grace, vulnerability, wonder, passion, silliness, acceptance, joy, flexibility, determination, peace, resiliency, and insight. On and on into the first night of your little life they came, one after another, to be certain that you would be bestowed with all the unique gifts you would need to bless this world you were entering.

They knew of your greatness. They knew of your promise. They awaited your arrival and the celebration had begun. Together they gathered to cherish you and to honor the being you were and would become.

The final angel stepped forward and gave the very last gift they had brought. It was the gift of self-love. And it was said, "May she always use this gift wisely and generously, it is the spark that ignites the power of all the other gifts. It is the fire that will fuel them. It is the softness that will allow them to expand. It is the strength that will support them in times of need. This last gift is where the seeds of her true beauty will grow and flourish."

Blessings, Lisa

The Paralysis of Fear

Have you ever been faced with a decision where you truly were struggling with what to do? You get caught up in all the choices. You find fear creeping in and surrounding your thoughts with what if and what can go wrong. This fear can grow and mount and begin to pull the brakes on your personal power. You become entangled in the paralysis of fear.

Dale Carnegie once stated, ""You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." And it is so true. Your soul is ready for your decision, regardless of what it is. It knows that if it is the "right" choice, it will lead you further down your path, bring into light what you need to know next and challenge you to grow. Your soul also knows that if it is NOT the "right" choice, you will be led further down your path, light will be shed on what you need to know next and you will be challenged to grow! Amazing!

It is your mind that thinks there is a do or die aspect to making the right choice. It creates story after story of all that can go wrong, who will be disappointed, the shame, the blame the consequences etc. Your anxiety level can go off the chart.

But what if there are no wrong decisions? What if you chose exactly what you need next, even if it is not in alignment with what your brain thinks? What if you remain present and open, no matter what you choose? You will be given an experience that will add to your life in some way, it will teach you, encourage you, propel you in some way. Imagine the possibilities in this truth.

We each have incredible resiliency and strength far greater than we give ourselves credit for. How many times have you created a story around choices in your life, that should have resulted in extremes far worse than you can describe and yet, somehow, your survived? You managed to rise above. You managed to learn something about your self. Somehow you handled what you deemed to be the wrong decision. Even if it was in reality the right decision!

Celebrate the choices, live large, practice your intentions, honor your callings, embrace your passions and let all this be the influence of your choices. Step away from the paralysis of fear.

Blessings, Lisa

Make Time for the Magic

When was the last time you saw the magic in your life? When was the last time you were left speechless, awestruck and in wonder? If it has been a while ... you need to make some time for it. And like many of the gifts in life, the more time you make for it the more you will see it surrounding you.

Magic is often the way the Universe communicates with us. Sometimes there are lessons in the communication, sometimes messages, but always gifts. One of the best ways to witness the magic that surrounds you is to tap into your younger energies and to be present in the essence of Now.

Magic has a difficult time manifesting in worry or negative energy. It just is not creative enough of an energy for the whimsy, the beauty and the delight to grow in. Magic loves to grow, to surprise, to tickle and to bring joy.

Magic can surprise you by showing up when and where you least expect it. It will grab your attention or subtly sneak up on you. It will provide you with beauty whether it be in sight or sound. It will awaken within you feelings of wonder and appreciation. It will give you a golden chord to weave through your day to keep it alive.

Magic can be seen through the eyes of a child, on a slow walk in the woods, in the holiday lights of the city, in the hands of your grandmother, in the song of the birds, at the water's edge, floating in the clouds .... anywhere! You simply need to be looking for it and making the time for it to visit you.

Magic does not disappoint. It gifts, it shares, it awakens and it sparks. You may find that when magic appears in your life that you will notice a spurt of energy, an answer to a query, an inspiration, or a calming grace. Magic is meant to be this way. Magic is meant to be an important part of your life.

Blessings, Lisa