What Defines Your Reality

What defines my reality? A question that I have worked with over time so that I become more aware of where I am energetically in the moment. This question has given me opportunities to keep my process clear, to find my direction and to heal what comes up.

We see in our lives situations, energetic relationships with people, places, events, things, that we try to understand, embrace or let go. Our reality in the moment ebbs and flows with the work we do around these. Remembering this is critical.

Think back to the last time you were frustrated with a situation. Perhaps it had something to do with work, or a family relationship or even the traffic. Your perception created your reality in the moment. You had the choice to see this from a perspective of complete overwhelm, bringing in all kinds of negative self talk and energies. Or you could stand grounded in the knowledge that the feelings and emotions wrapped around the moment would eventually pass, that you would more than likely resolve the problem, make amends with your family, and, yes, get through the traffic and arrive at your destination.

We need to learn how to train ourselves to view life and its events from a place of gentle understanding that our ego often likes to take charge and be in control. When this happens we often are walking a tightrope of emotions. We see ourselves so differently than who we are truly and authentically. Our reflection of our Self and the events we are in can become skewed and inaccurate

We have all been there, listening to someone go on and on about a situation in their life, how limited their choices are, how much a victim they are of the circumstances, how unfair it all is, how impossible things have become and so on. We have listened to the voice inside that responds with comments like, "Well, that is because you won't let go of the old story, or You are not ready to embrace your truth, or That is only one way to see this." What if we took these kinds of comments and applied them to our own dialogue the next time we are defining our reality.

Imagine what could shift, imagine how quickly you could pull yourself out of the egoic sludge and move on, imagine what you could learn about your inner Truth! It will most likely take you out of your comfort zone the first few times you try this. Even pain can be a comfort zone for us, especially if we feel we know no other way. But, with gentle tenderness and consideration that we are a work in progress, we can find that taking small steps in this understanding of our moment by moment perception can be a path to living in our Truth, in the moment, and not projecting into the future the what ifs or draggin along the past's old story lines.

Blessings, Lisa

To Be Happy

I posted earlier today a Tedx video of a 13 year old boy sharing among many things the answer to the question, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" He talked about the difference in perspective of a child versus an adult. He talked about living life fully, keeping things in perspective, being present and fully active in his day's energies and ended by saying while he is not quite sure what he wants to DO when he grows up he is certain that he wants to BE happy.

So what keeps us from this state of being happy? What gets in our way, trips us up and boxes us in. Why do we lose the perspective of our inner child instead of bringing it along with us in our life journey the same way we bring along our other characteristics?

To be happy requires less than we think it does. We over complicate it. We place expectations upon what it needs to look like, feel like, and cost us. We dictate when we have time to be happy, who we can be happy with and where we can find happiness.

What if we flung open the door to our happiness. What if we looked for it in the most unexpected places, made room for it in the least obvious relationships and were willing to  take a few risks and chances at creating it? What have we got to lose? We know we have everything to gain.

Our soul seeks happiness, bliss, delight and beauty. It is everywhere around us and if we take down the barriers and open our doors wide to the energies, so that they flow through and around us, the shift happens. Our bad days are not quite as hard, our ill moods not quite as sour, our frustrations not as taxing and we see light where we could only see darkness before. We feel brighter, lighter, stronger, and more alive!

And as an added bonus, this energetic shift spreads quickly. Those around us cannot help but be drawn into the flow of the happiness. Each day holds more smiles, more laughter, more tenderness and care.

Yes, as I grew up I found out what I wanted to Do. But more importantly I found how to Be happy!

Blessings, Lisa

The Thoughts That Bind Us

Thoughts are powerful. We hold and move energies with our thoughts. We can shift perspectives, influence opinions, offer encouragement and more. Judgments are thoughts with quite powerful energies as well. Especially if our critical judgment is sensed by the person that they are about.

Imagine if we are judging someone and we are thinking to ourselves that this person is saying something dumb or foolish. If that person happens to be sensitive, they will pick up on the energies that our thoughts are creating about them and if they are perhaps worried about what they are saying, or if they are feeling a bit uncertain, well we just reinforced all of that! Even if they are not sensitive or intuitive the energies are transferred.

If we can become aware of our judgments and know that whether we speak them or keep them to ourselves, the energies have been created. Being mindful of this fact, we can train ourselves to step away from judgment. Critical judgments have the power to be perceived by whomever we are judging. It is not in alignment with our integrity. It is not of love.

There is a saying if you have nothing good to say, then say nothing at all. Well, if you have nothing kind to think, then refrain from the judging. Criticizing someone, more often than not, is done without knowing all the facts or the person's story. So, we then create further story around them to support our judging thoughts. This dis-empowers, tears down, and separates those from us. When we walk with our heart and soul, we find it is far more peaceful and beautiful to refrain from this behavior. And that is what it is, a behavior. Behaviors are learned and can be changed and altered, with focus and intention.

The next time a judging thought creeps in, realign your self, seek the love to be found, the beauty, the gift of grace. Not only will it serve the one being judged, but it certainly will serve you as well.

Blessings, Lisa

Make Time for the Magic

When was the last time you saw the magic in your life? When was the last time you were left speechless, awestruck and in wonder? If it has been a while ... you need to make some time for it. And like many of the gifts in life, the more time you make for it the more you will see it surrounding you.

Magic is often the way the Universe communicates with us. Sometimes there are lessons in the communication, sometimes messages, but always gifts. One of the best ways to witness the magic that surrounds you is to tap into your younger energies and to be present in the essence of Now.

Magic has a difficult time manifesting in worry or negative energy. It just is not creative enough of an energy for the whimsy, the beauty and the delight to grow in. Magic loves to grow, to surprise, to tickle and to bring joy.

Magic can surprise you by showing up when and where you least expect it. It will grab your attention or subtly sneak up on you. It will provide you with beauty whether it be in sight or sound. It will awaken within you feelings of wonder and appreciation. It will give you a golden chord to weave through your day to keep it alive.

Magic can be seen through the eyes of a child, on a slow walk in the woods, in the holiday lights of the city, in the hands of your grandmother, in the song of the birds, at the water's edge, floating in the clouds .... anywhere! You simply need to be looking for it and making the time for it to visit you.

Magic does not disappoint. It gifts, it shares, it awakens and it sparks. You may find that when magic appears in your life that you will notice a spurt of energy, an answer to a query, an inspiration, or a calming grace. Magic is meant to be this way. Magic is meant to be an important part of your life.

Blessings, Lisa