The Gentle Act of Comfort

There are many people who are suffering, for many reasons, and feeling alone, misunderstood and fearful. There are also many people who are in their lives who do not know how to respond to this pain. They don't know what to do or how to act around this suffering and loss. And so this energy of awkwardness, emptiness, anxiousness and misunderstanding grows.

We don't like to see the ones we love and care for struggle. It causes us distress and discomfort. Often times this makes us feel like we need to DO something to help ease their pain. It also gives us something to focus on instead of being in our own pain and discomfort. But this is not always the needed action. To simply be present with someone who is in pain and allow them to just BE is often the most important thing we can do and a very powerful gift to be able to offer.

Try to remember a time when you were hurting. There really wasn't much anyone could do, the situation existed and you had to live through the loss, the hurt, the disappointment and learn how to move on. The reality is all you really wanted was for someone to offer some compassion, to give you a hug, to hold your hand, to be gentle with you as you tried to move through the hurt, the suffering and find some clarity on what was next. Remember how it felt when that was offered to you. Remember the ease it brought to your heart and mind. Remember how you felt honored and witnessed. Remember how grateful you were for the space of kindness and compassion.

Solace is a tremendous and necessary gift that when offered genuinely and with grace is valued beyond measure. To be able to be with someone who is suffering, sit with their pain and bring your time, your heart, your soul presence is a beautiful offering that holds tremendous healing energies.

We are a fix-it society. But often, when there is pain and loss, the best way to bring peace to the wound is to offer it time, gentleness, rest from the struggle and compassion, tender compassion, to the wounded soul. It keeps that place in time simple and uncomplicated. It keeps the energies quiet and pure. It keeps the heart open and the flow gentle. Bringing this to the life of a friend or loved one who is hurting is a very special gift you can offer; a heart to soul healing love.

Blessings, Lisa

Your Comfort Zone

No, I am not going to talk today about stretching yourself, or reaching further, or raising the bar or even embracing the challenge. Today I am going to talk about creating a soft place for you to land. Today I am going to share the powerful gift you can give yourself by creating a very personalized comfort zone.

We all need a place to settle back into. We long for those days where there is little on the "to do" list. Sometimes we need to pause, reflect, rest and refuel. There is no shame in this. It is a need. It is vital to our balance and to our beauty in life.

So if we can accept this without harsh self criticism or judgement, why not really get creative? What does your comfort zone look like? Is it indoors or out? Maybe you have both? Take the time to talk to your body and soul. What is needed? Are there colors that you resonate with? How about certain scents? Maybe you need plant life surrounding you?

Perhaps it needs to be dark and candle lit, or wide open windows that let the breeze and day's light in. Each of us is so exquisitely unique and so too should our comfort places be. Daydream on this for a while. What would the perfect soft landing, body resting, heart satisfying, mind releasing, tension taming, soul celebrating place look like?

Now the fun begins. How can you create this in some way? Pillows? Candles? Veils of sheer scarves? Chimes? Lush green plants? Scents and perfumes? Music? Bouquets of flowers? What delights you? What colors, what shapes, what textures, what elements? Dream big!

Now go about choosing a location for this in your home. A corner of a room or a spot in your yard? It is up to you and your needs and desires. Intentionally creating this sacred place of comfort brings your essence and peaceful energies into it. Your grace flows through it. Your beauty decorates it.

Your body temple needs to be adored and honored. Who better to do this than you? Within this sacred comfort zone you will find rest and peace. You will breathe in inspiration. You will hear the longings of your soul. Here you will nurture yourself and rest. Here you will honor your body's needs. Within your personal retreat space you can find your balance, your center and awaken energies that are ready to be born.

Blessings, Lisa